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Gender Freedom (GF) is Canada’s newest Transgender Support Group, located in Ottawa, Ontario.

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where individuals can feel free to express themselves and pursue
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through outreach activities.

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Voted the Most Ineffective Transgendered Support Group in Canada.

August 31st, 2015

Well it happened again, the Second Annual meeting of the 3 Originating Presidents of Gender Mosaic (Spanning 7 years) met on August 28 2015 at Monkeys Joes in Ottawa.

We talked, ate, had a white wine toast, reminisced old friends, and just caught up on each others current lives.

We spent some time discussing what has happened to Gender Mosaic and their was some discussion of trying to go back and help.

Wisely this was dismissed and a majority vote was reached, Gender Mosaic is the most Ineffective Transgendered Support Group in Canada.

As a result Gender Mosaic and the current Executive have been issued a Certificate by us to that effect.

Starting with Kelly’s illegal motion to have my Life Membership removed.

February 2010

Item 1-No outstanding expenditures.

Item 2-All members of the Executive were re-acclaimed.

Item 3-Kelly Ann put a motion to have Judy removed as a lifetime member and a vote of Yea was passed by the Executive.

Followed by the Amanda/Sophips only way out while reaping $133,000.00 in profit from their Spring Fling event, to declare all Life memberships in-valid but those that one could keep them for 3 months ..What’s that about ?

“Lifetime memberships.”
“Lifetime memberships never existed in the GM bylaws.”
“Special memberships are clearly defined as people who cannot afford to pay a membership.”
Previous executive did not have authority to issue lifetime memberships. The membership therefore concludes that lifetime memberships never existed (The membership never concluded and was not permitted to even vote) and as such the benefits of supposed lifetime memberships are null and void.”
The benefits of supposed lifetime memberships will therefore expire at the end of 2013.”
“The membership has the option to propose amendments to bylaws to create lifetime memberships or other modifications at any future general meeting.”
This item is not an item to be voted upon.”

The Membership where not permitted to vote and it was an edict of the Executive.

This is a group without direction and the present leadership ? of Janne Charbonneau, Kay Lockhart and Madeleine Grant do nothing to correct the failings of the former Executive.

 A group going nowhere without direction or purpose, I have been ask when I will stop the information trial on GM the answer is simple….when they do the right thing.

 Judy Kearns

 Founder

 


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June 1st, 2015

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That Gender Mosaic group has no limits!

March 1st, 2015

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Not content with the harm they have already done to my reputation now they are claiming slander and trying to have my ISP shut my web site down.

They Failed !!  because every thing I publish is supported by the facts.

Then to add insult to injury they sent me a LINKIN Friend request.

They won’t talk to resolve the issue, they just attack and attack.

Who are these people and where do they come from… not my planet.

~Judy Kearns


Bill C-279: When will there be protection for the Transgendered in Canada ?

October 4th, 2014

Bill C-279 will bring basic human rights to the Transgendered of Canada and perhaps the world.

While the same Bill has passed the House of Commons Twice, it is stalled by the Harper Government-controlled Senate. I wonder if there will ever be justice for transgendered people in this country under his ‘command’.

It has been dubbed the Bathroom Bill,a nickname which both cheapens the Bill and its intent and degrades it by making its content and import seem narrow and base. In comment on this current situation, I offer

the following article by Gender Freedom’s own Maggie James for your consideration.

~ Webmistress Judy Kearns

Thoughts on the Washroom Use issue

The issue of washroom access in public places for TG people is a classic illustration of the social and cultural mechanisms that conspire to thwart, or at least delay, the eventual acceptance of the TG community by mainstream society.

The problem boils down to the fact that the needs and desires of transitioning TSs and cross dressers conflict harshly with the rights, privileges and expectations currently enjoyed by mainstream, conventionally-gendered people.

There is also the overriding reality that owners and managers of restaurants, hotels, workplaces and other private premises have the right to set their own rules within the limits set out in the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms and the Ontario Human Rights Act.

This, of course, brings us to the crucial difference between rights and privileges, a distinction very few people actually understand. Rights apply to all, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, race, creed or colour. No one can take them away. Privileges, on the other hand, are bestowed by those in power and authority in a given jurisdiction or social context and can be taken away if abused. In most cases, privileges are not just given freely; they must be earned. For example: All legal residents of Ontario have a right to OHIP health care coverage. But residents must earn the privilege of carrying a drivers license, and the license can be taken away if they abuse the privilege.

At this point in history, transgendered people must rely on the good will of the owners and managers of private venues to extend them privileges such as use of the washroom of their choice.

The principle of privilege also applies to the government workplaces. Washroom access for TGs in the Federal environment is a matter of government management policy, not a right. The policy is administered differently in different government venues. Some departments and agencies allow TSs to use the washroom that corresponds to their chosen gender role while others restrict pre-op TSs to the so-called gender-neutral (sometimes referred to as family, or accessible washrooms available at their locations. The policy simply states that TSs must be accommodated.

And, as was vividly illustrated by the case last year in which a transitioning pre-op TS was denied use of the ladies showers and change rooms at a Hamilton (ON) gym, social standards will prevail. Regardless of how supportive business owners may feel about accommodating TG people, they cannot be expected to throw their businesses down the drain by doing something that will alienate their mainstream clients. Neither will any government ever step up and do anything that might alienate a large block of voters. Legalizing use of public washrooms by TG people would be political suicide. Mainstream society is simply not ready for such a move.

So Much more education and outreach must be done before the general public will be ready to embrace and facilitate the self-expression activities of TG people. Protests, expressions of outrage and harsh demands by members of the TG Community for *privileges* (which they mistakenly call *rights*) will not help bring TGs and the mainstream closer together. In fact, that kind of confrontational approach will only drive the two groups farther apart and delay the eventual acceptance of TGs by the mainstream.

Bottom line: TGs will only get the privileges they want by earning them; not by trying to demand them or extort them from those who have the power to extend those privileges. The TG community must work in a low-key, non-confrontational manner from within (or at least in cooperation with) the mainstream to gradually achieve the privileges, status and respect that we all want and deserve.

As with so many other things in life, PATIENCE IS THE KEY. And a firm right hand held out in friendship is infinitely more effective than a slap in the face when you want to influence someone in your favour.

Sorry about that. Got carried away. But It frustrates the daylights out of me to see so many TG people acting like impatient, hyperactive children about so-called Trans Rights, oversimplifying the issue and proposing actions and policies which do nothing to advance the cause of TG acceptance  actions and policies which, in fact, help to build and reinforce the walls of suspicion, mistrust and misunderstanding that separate the TG community and the mainstream.

[Repost, from a personal blog.]


Thoughts on Bullies (re-post)

August 29th, 2014

Although there is still a scientific debate on the nature and definition of bullying, most researchers understand this behavior as aggression characterized by:

  1. causing intentional harm,
  2. repetition, and
  3. an imbalance of power between the bully and the victim.

Bullies appear to derive satisfaction from inflicting injury and suffering on others, seem to have little empathy for their victims, and often defend their actions by saying that their victims provoked them in some way.

Bullies often come from homes in which physical punishment is used, where striking out physically is seen as a way to handle problems and where friendships and warmth are frequently lacking. Sociologists agree that children who have been bullied tend to become bullies themselves. Researchers also agree that all bullies share two key personality characteristics: Low self esteem and profound insecurity.

Boys and girls bully differently but its still about power and control.

Boys will beat you up and feel they have won because youre the one with the black eye and bleeding nose. But they have won nothing. The victory is shallow and exists only in their minds.

Girls, on the other hand, tend to choose rumors, criticism and ostracism as methods of bulling. In it’s own way, this kind of  ‘psychological warfare’ can be more damaging and harder to combat than the simple physical abuse traditionally preferred by boys.

Bystanders also play a role in bullying:

  • the enforcers join in and assist the bully
  • the re-enforcers encourage the bully by observing and laughing
  • the outsiders avoid the bullying by staying away and not getting involved for fear of losing social status or being bullied as well.

Perhaps the greatest tragedy of bullying is that it doesn’t end with childhood. Childhood bullies often become adult bullies. Their methods become more subtle but their basic behavior patterns remain the same.

We have recently been hearing a lot about adult bullying in newspaper and magazine articles about office bullying and, in particular, ‘the bully boss’. The bully boss’s leadership style is usually described as ‘my way or the highway’ and he or she almost always surrounds him/herself with multiple enforcers and re-enforcers.

The bully boss is also characterized by a top-down management style. She/he consults the employees under her/his authority only to inform them of decisions already made at the executive level; never to seek their guidance or opinions. If the employees choose to remain ‘outsiders’ and simply ‘go with the flow’, the bully boss is successful in maintaining his/her position of power and control. If, however, any employee dares to question the bully boss’s policies or actions, the employee can expect to face the boss’s retribution. Retribution may come in the form of reprimands, threats and (in extreme cases) material punishments such as demotions or suspensions.

The bully boss can also – and all too often does – appear in the leadership of service clubs, volunteer-based groups and other non-commercial organizations. Almost invariably, the bully boss, as President of the club, surrounds him/herself with enforcers and re-enforcers and alienates any non-outsiders – anyone who disagrees with with their top-down policies and poses a threat to their power and control.

I have recently been the victim of this kind of treatment, from the leaders of a group I founded over twenty six years ago (GenderMosaic). The president along with his clique of enforcers systematically drove many talented, dedicated and valuable members out of the organization when they questioned his leadership style, agenda and decisions.

My solution was to leave the old group and start a new one, based on bottom-up, member-driven policies and agendas.

As for the bullies, I feel sorry for them. If the leadership of a small group on the fringes of the GLBT community means so much to them, their lives must be very sad and empty, indeed.

~Judy Kearns